Nigerian pastor Nkem Adu has sparked controversy after warning men against having romantic relationships with widows.
She claims deceased husbands continue watching over their wives and that men who sleep with them risk suffering or even dying.
Her controversial sermon has drawn sharp reactions from social media users. 
Pastor Nkem Adu Warns Against Relationships With Widows
Nigerian pastor Nkem Adu has warned her congregation and the wider public that sleeping with a widow is the worst thing a man can do. She insists that those who do so will suffer.
“To sleep with a widow is the worst that can happen to you, yes na mummy Nkem dey talk am, you know that the bible says that anything that can separate a man and a woman is death,” she said.
“The Dead Are Watching Their Wives” – Pastor Nkem Adu
The clergywoman argues that dead husbands keep watch over their wives. She claims that any man who pursues a widow will eventually suffer. She also warns that the cause of the husband’s death could kill the new partner if he does not take care.
“I’m telling you that even people who are dead are watching their wives, go and check anybody in a relationship with a widow, check them, go and check those sleeping with a widow, they suffer and if you don’t take time the same thing that kill the man will kill you,” she told the congregation.
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Dogs Bark, She Says, When a Dead Husband Is Near
Pastor Adu dismissed the belief that the dead cannot see and called it a lie. She told her congregation that a dead man’s spirit stays around his wife, and she offered a sign for recognising its presence. According to her, a dog that barks almost constantly is seeing the dead man. She claimed the spirit lingers for five to six years before it leaves.
“They will tell you that the man is dead, that the dead can’t see, let me tell you, they are the people that can see. The dead is watching anytime a man that love the family so much and they say that this man is dead check the wife, you must know that the spirit of the man is still around, if you have a dog and the dog will begin to bark everytime to tell you that somebody is inside, the man will continue to be there for almost 5 years or 6 years before he leaves and you can’t do whatever with a widow, a widow still have somebody that is still by their side,” she said.
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Online Users React
The video of the sermon quickly gained traction on X, where many users rejected her claims. Several argued that a woman should not lose the chance of love and affection because she has lost her husband.
The user @HAYZEDProS called the claim “a very fat lie.” The user wrote: “Once a woman’s husband’s dies. she’s no longer married to the man. She’s free to marry another man so how will sleeping with such a woman be wrong?” The same user added that women should not lead religious gatherings because they speak out of emotion.
@MaziNasir accused the pastor of inventing claims for attention. “Lies. This fake pastors can actually say anything to appear relevant or trend,” the user tweeted.
@HeiWaiXingRen questioned the logic of the warning. “So she should be denied love and affection because of a deceased partner. Nigerian preachers sometimes, make no sense,” the user wrote.
Story written by Oluwatoyin Ololade, edited by Sola Sanusi.
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