When Kunle Remi married Boluwatiwi ‘Tiwi’ Oye on January 20, 2024, every other person was getting notifications except Tiwi. Not only that, the only places people could look her up were on LinkedIn and Google, because apparently, she had no social media accounts.
Tiwi chose to live without personal accounts on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, or other platforms. No burners, no social media apps on her phone.
In the first episode of her YouTube series Bare, she explained that her decision to stay off social media wasn’t sudden but was the result of deep self-examination. 
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Why Tiwi Has No Social Media Accounts
In high school, she was one of the “influential” kids everyone knew, and that early spotlight followed her online. On Facebook and later Instagram, where her handle was Reality Tiwi, she quickly learned something. Posts where she wore revealing clothes, posts about private details of her life, and who she hung out with had massive engagement, and she enjoyed it.
“I found myself gravitating towards more of those kinds of posts, forming what I would call an online identity that wasn’t completely far from who I was… but it was definitely curated,” she said.
She called the reasons for her leaving social media “red flags”, and she mentioned four major ones that made her leave social media.
According to her, the first major red flag was the intense self-focus.
“The more I focused on me, myself, and I, I was brought back to my high school years of, I wasn’t doing things for others. I was using my influence for myself.”
Professionally, her rapid success as a young vice president added pressure. She worried about clients seeing an image she couldn’t explain. For her, the stakes felt even higher. Although at one point, Instagram functioned almost like a dating app, she knew she wanted marriage. She did not want to have to explain a lot of stuff to her spouse and to her children in the future.
“So like, it’s a tool. Right? The tool was using me, I wasn’t using the tool. And I was playing the numbers game, which is a losing game. The most important game is the sincerity, the identity, the integrity game. And I didn’t even know how to define those things when I started MySpace,” she added.
Time became another dealbreaker for her. After spending hours curating aesthetic posts, she realised it didn’t yield personal growth or monetary return. Most critically, she couldn’t explain what she was doing on social media.
“I had no idea who I was and what I was meant to be contributing to other people,” Tiwi explained. “Therefore, I didn’t feel like being online and using my influence in a negative way, or a lukewarm way, was enough to justify spending so much time on an app.”
Her exit was gradual. She started by deleting photos and taking extended breaks before eventually stepping away entirely. Looking back on it all, she believes divine protection was woven through it all, especially ahead of marrying a man with a strong public image, Kunle Remi. Their relationship, marked by genuine connection, witty charm, and shared values, seems to thrive partly because of the peace her offline life brings.
In an era where influencers chase content and couples perform their love for the ’gram, Tiwi’s choice feels like a quiet rebellion.
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